Life after caring

Resting and letting yourself have a break now that your caring responsibilities have ended, could be just as important as taking on a new endeavour. 

You could look into taking a short break somewhere. Just taking some time out just for yourself to relax and enjoy hobbies such as reading, going for a walk, or seeing family or friends may be all you need to recharge your batteries. 

Yesterday, Dad died. I know life will be hectic for the next few weeks. So, today, I did something I've never done before. I have sat in my garden all day and done absolutely nothing. I didn't read or listen to music; I just sat and reflected." Anon – Forum user

You may wish to do a course, return to hobbies or interests that you have put aside, or learn something completely new. 

Through your caring experiences, you may have also gained new skills or interests that you want to develop further.  

Our Carers UK e-learning programmes can provide a helpful starting point if you are wondering what skills you've gained from caring. 

For example, the introductory course Learning for Living encourages you to identify what skills you have and learn how they can add value in the community or workplace. It covers everything from communicating effectively to goal setting and includes a wide range of scenarios to suit people in different situations. 

You could also contact your local library or adult education centre to find out about courses or training in your area. Many local and community colleges offer evening and part-time courses in a broad range of subjects, from courses to help you retrain for employment to those purely for interest and enjoyment. Many of these will also be available online. Taking a course can also be a good way to meet new people with similar interests.

You may feel isolated after many years of caring, and wonder if there is any support you can get from others in a similar position who have been through similar challenges in life with caring. 

You could find out what support your local carers’ organisation or local carers’ group offers to former carers. See our local directory. 

You could also speak to other former carers on the Carers UK  Forum. 
 

If you have some spare time, and feel you are ready to take on something new, you may be interested in volunteering. 

As well as offering much needed help to local people or organisations, volunteering can be a very social activity, and a good way to meet new people. 

Volunteering opportunities can range from befriending older or disabled people, offering your skills to a local charity (for example, administration, fundraising, legal advice etc.), to helping out on a local conservation project. 

You can look for your local volunteering centre  here. The website  Do-It  holds many volunteer opportunities and is searchable by subject as well as postcode. 

Many former carers volunteer with Carers UK. The  volunteering opportunities  range from events volunteers, local awareness volunteers, insight volunteers and listening support volunteers. 

With more available time, you may be considering the possibility of starting a new job or career. This may seem like an exciting but daunting prospect. You may feel a bit rusty or that you don’t have the latest digital know-how, but don’t let any doubts hold you back. 

If you are unsure what you would like to do and where to begin, a good place to start is by recognising the skills and interests you have. Our  Learning for Living  e-learning programme offers a helpful introduction with techniques to create goals and understand what skills you've gained from caring. 

You could also consider the skills you have gained from: 

• any paid work that you have done 
• any volunteering work that you have done. 

We have more tips and career advice in our  Work and Career section, including training course recommendations.

Remember to notify any benefit offices about your change of circumstances

If your caring role has now ended, it’s important to let all the benefit agencies and relevant departments know of your change of circumstances. If you are not sure if the change is one that needs to be reported, it is probably best to inform them anyway, just in case.

Some changes need to be reported in writing. The benefit agencies can let you know how they wish for you to report the change. 

Could you do with some help with reviewing your financial situation now?

To help review if you are entitled to any extra financial support now, you may find it helpful to arrange a benefits review. 

The benefits system can be complicated and so it is a good idea to get a benefits check to make sure you are claiming everything you are entitled to. Our Carers UK Helpline advisers can help carry out one for you – you can request one by emailing advice@carersuk.org. 

Note: If you were getting a Council Tax discount, exemption, or band reduction, remember to let your local council know that your circumstances have changed. If you are living alone, you may still be entitled to a single occupant’s discount (25%) on your bill. 

See our coping with bereavement page if you have recently lost someone you were caring for.